You voted for this. This is a new phrase I keep hearing lately — people saying, “I didn’t vote for this.”I see it online, I hear it in interviews, I read it in the comments.My message is simple: this is exactly what you voted for. For the people upset that families are being torn apart Read More …
A caregiver’s clapback to the Bruce Willis backlash — and why people need to shut up Lately I’ve been seeing a wild amount of hate aimed at Bruce Willis’s wife — all because she dared to do something caregivers across the world dream of doing: Build a sustainable setup to care for someone they love. Read More …
Caregiver journey examined through Jordan Peele’s Us, showing how caregiving can feel like falling into another world. Falling Through the Trapdoor You’re just walking around. Living life. Doing all the things regular people do. And then suddenly — something happens. A diagnosis. A hospital visit. A fall. And just like that, you’re not in the Read More …
I heard the side conversations when I was first brought around.Not whispers exactly, but close enough. From friends, from people we both knew. “Be careful of that one.”“It’s probably not a good idea.”“The age gap’s not gonna work.”“You gotta be smart — think about why he’s really here.” I heard it all. And I tucked Read More …
Caregiving in the trenches means living in a world where just as you find your rhythm, trauma stacks on top of trauma. Things were starting to feel normal—as normal as life can be in caregiving, or life in the trenches, as we say in our world. The meds were under control, doctor’s appointments were happening Read More …
Our caregiving journey has been nothing like we expected. Two summers ago, we were standing under the Sistine Chapel ceiling, craning our necks to take it all in. Last summer, we were laughing over pizza in Amsterdam. This summer, I’m memorizing hospital hallways and medication schedules. Life flipped overnight, and we never saw it coming. Read More …
Caring for someone who doesn’t know they’re confused isn’t something you’re ever prepared for. Nobody teaches you how to be a caregiver.Not really.They show you how to take a blood pressure reading, how to push a wheelchair, how to lift someone without hurting your back.But they don’t teach you how to be patient with someone Read More …
Caregiver burnout has an ugly truth no one talks about: The one person who stays? The one who shows up every day, wipes you, lifts you, feeds you, advocates for you, cries over you?That’s the one who often gets treated like the enemy. And that’s how caregiver burnout begins. Not the aides who clock in Read More …
Caregiving setbacks hit hard — especially when you don’t see them coming. It was a Sunday. We were all set to go to one of our favorite restaurants — Berry’s. We’d been planning it all week, looking forward to it like a big event. It was supposed to be smooth. Just a walk down the Read More …
In this caregiving blog, I share the parts no one talks about — the quiet, late-night moments where love shows up in silence. There are emergencies, sure. The moments when everything feels urgent — meds, symptoms, appointments, questions you don’t have answers to. Like that night I woke up at 3 a.m. and something just Read More …